BDE: What is it and Who has it?

BDE— what is it and who has it? Well typically you know it when you see it but consider the following BDE 101. Class is now in session.

Definition: BDE stands for BIG DICK ENERGY and started taking pop culture by storm in June 2018. Thanks internet!!! By the way physical endowment has nothing to do with it.

BDE is a quiet confidence, swagger and charisma exuded by both men and women alike, who are comfortable being themselves and giving absolutely zero fucks about what others think. It’s not cockiness, it’s not a power trip — it’s the opposite: a healthy, satisfied, low-key way to express confidence in yourself. It’s an aura, a vibe. What Kanye calls Dragon Energy.

History: BDE’s origin isn’t completely clear but it’s usually attributed to singer Ariana Grande and her fiancé, comedian Pete Davidson.


When Grande and Davidson announced their engagement after only a few weeks of dating, it left many fans and most pop culture critics scratching their heads. But shortly after, when Grande was promoting her upcoming album, Sweetener, which has an interlude devoted to Davidson, a fan on Twitter innocently asked how long the interlude was. Grande’s response was anything but innocent.


The response, which has since been deleted, sparked immediately Twitter conversation in addition to providing an explanation for the stars mutual attraction. Twitter user @babyvietcong took it to another level by lifting the phrasing “big dick energy” from an early June tweet by @imbobswaget and applying it to Davidson.


Immediately it was the topic du jour for BuzzFeed, The Cut and other pop culture websites and podcasts, all debating the BDE merits of various celebrities. And you can now even take a quiz on BuzzFeed to see what percent Big Dick Energy you are.

Identification: The intangible and subjective nature of BDE is the very reason people can’t stop talking about it. It is a designation, yes, but also an inquiry. So who has it? Jon Hamm, yup! Rihanna, most definitely! Betty White— You Betcha!!! But the fun is debating it, what it means to you and therefore, who has it and who doesn’t.

So there you go. BDE!!!

Class dismissed.